When I Grow Up

August 12, 2013


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When I was growing up I always saw myself working hard, having a career that earned me lots of money to buy myself a house, get married and have children.  As a child I used to want to be a primary school teacher.  There was something about learning and teaching that I loved but, as children do, I changed my mind.  There were times when I thought about childcare instead, about being a costume designer for film and television, about doing a history degree and working in a museum or archive. Eventually, I decided to study television production with a dream of becoming an editor.  I fell out of love with that too with three months of my course left while large television companies were going into administration all over the country. Truth be told, I still don't know what I want to do!

As some of you may be aware, I am unemployed.  It isn't something I really talk about in depth or all that often, to be honest. After college I took a part time job as an office junior in a solicitors'. It wasn't the most challenging work, or the most satisfying, but knowing I was earning felt good.  Two years later the company merged with a larger one and redundancies were made, myself included. I haven't been able to secure a job since. This is most certainly not for a lack of trying on my part but with the job market as it is and my limited experience, I have spent months of  application after application being overlooked. 

There is a horrible stigma when it comes to being unemployed, especially for a long period of time.  This is partly the reason why I am ashamed to tell people from my past that I am, indeed, out of work. People tend to jump to the conclusion that you're either work shy or too picky.  You're too lazy or stupid to get a job. It is a never-ending cycle of judgement. It isn't as though I like being unemployed. Sure, I get to stay at home all day with the dog and do housework instead but there is no spending money for me. Not to mention the fact that there is always financial stress thanks to our mortgage and we continually have to delay our big life plans.  It also doesn't feel good to rely on the other half or have him continually treat me instead of the other way around.  I am sick of hearing people say "if you want work, you'll find it".  If only it was that simple.  

When searching for job vacancies, I ask myself three things. If the answer is yes to all three then you better bet I'll be applying.

Could I physically and/or mentally carry out the tasks required?  
Even when the job description states that previous experience is required, I ask myself whether, with a little training, I could do the job or not. If I think I could then I'll apply regardless.  Obviously, there's no point in applying for a job that requires any knowledge on specific topics that I have absolutely no understanding of, but if I think I could learn the skills you better believe I'm applying.

Can I travel there? 
I don't drive and so I would have to rely heavily on public transport.  This is often quite a big issue for me.  If I can't travel by bus or train fairly easily then it's a no can do. I have considered getting a disclosure and looking into childcare and babysitting for the working parent but the frequency a driver's license is required is astounding! Additionally, my entire life and family is based where I currently live.  I can't move to another city (or country) purely for work like a lot of people I know have.

Is it worth the money?
In other words, are my monthly wages going to even cover the cost of my bus fare as, if they don't, I'm just going to be worse off; eating into my savings in the long run. Some people will argue with me here and say that gaining experience is better than worrying about the few extra quid you would spend to get there.  If money is already tight though, you'd understand.

With Scottish exam results being released just last week, many young people are now faced with the choice of college, university or work. Schools love to emphasise the importance of a career and going to university. And whilst I agree that further education is a great opportunity, to me, everyone and every path is different.  Just because you're 18 years old doesn't mean that you have to know what your life long career will be.  Going to college or university doesn't guarantee you a job or career in the future.  It's okay not to have a career planned out. Sometimes it's the other things in life that end up being more important, like family. That being said, I'd like to have an income and a job.  You know, so I actually had money and was socialising!

What do I want to be if and when I grow up?  

Let me get back to you on that one.

Until next time!


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11 comments :

  1. I've been out of work for extended periods of time too. It's no fun. Have you thought of trying for an apprenticeship?

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    1. Apprenticeships, re-training in another field and all types of other pathways have been considered and tested. I've been at this a while. Trust me, I've tried everything, just not found the right place for me yet.

      Debi x

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  2. Loved this post Debi, couldn't have put it better myself! Isn't it awful how people assume you're not even trying to get work when you really are. I always have to explain well actually here have a look at all the rejection letters I've received this week... not cool! Your criteria for applying for jobs is spot on too! There are a lot of jobs I start to apply for but then realise they're too far away or there is no public transport nearby to get there! We just have to believe that the perfect job will eventually come up and someone will take a chance on us soon with any luck :) xx

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    1. It's even worse when you don't even hear back from the company. You mean that little to them. It can be very demoralising to not be getting anywhere and it is even worse when people think you aren't trying!

      I'm working on creating the perfect job for myself. Can't really rely on anyone else nowadays but I'm still applying! Hope there's something fantastic for us both.

      Debi x

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  3. Well done Debi! :) I know this post was worrying you but if you ask me you had nothing to worry about! :) I always think there is so much pressure to live life in a set way & if we aren't then we beat ourselves up about it & we really shouldn't! Great going! :)
    Anna
    Xxxx

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    1. That's so nice to hear, Anna. I do agree that there is pressure to live life the way other's deem appropriate and sometimes that just isn't possible. I think, as a whole, we let what others think matter too much.

      Debi x

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    2. Exactly, it's slightly frustrating too! No two people are the same so we shouldn't act it & we aren't robots, we aren't programmed (that has just led me to a future blog post idea) :) watch this space hehe xx

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  4. I've just posted about this exact same topic, how weird. I'm exactly like you, have no idea what career I want and have been through so many things it's ridiculous, but at the moment I'm lucky, I do have a job. A job will come along at some point, it's just a matter of waiting for it.

    Best of luck

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    Helen

    x

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    1. Yeah, you're right. Something will come along sooner or later until then I'll have to just keep looking and trying to figure out what I want to do.

      Thanks for dropping by.

      Debi x

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  5. great post Debi! thankfully I have never been in your shoes so I can't even begin to imagine how annoying and frustrating it must be, fingers crossed something comes along! I dunno if you would be interested in writing to earn some extra cash but I came across this site today and ive signed up, mainly to give me some more writing experience but it might be worth a shot, even if it just gets you some pocket money! its http://www.peopleperhour.com

    Kirsty Rockit Style

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    1. Thanks, Kirsty. I'll have a look into that. It's very frustrating now to know I've almost spent all my savings on bills and such with no job in sight. Just gotta keep going!

      Debi x

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