Body Image & Confidence

September 25, 2014

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Like just about everyone else on the planet I have struggled with my body image and confidence. I guess it's hard not to when the media churns out article upon article of classically beautiful women with gorgeous skin and perfect proportions. Furthermore, I think that it is pretty much human nature to be self-critical and judgemental.

For me, it has never been about weight. In fact, I didn't weigh myself for about a decade as I just wasn't bothered about what I thought of as just a number. I'm lucky enough to say that I've never had any issue with food, eating three meals a day plus snacks! I'm slim despite doing no more exercise than walking the dog and the very occasional yoga session. I don't work out at all even though I know I should.

I've had people tell me that they'd love to have my body, that I'm so slim, that my waist looks tiny, that my eyes look amazing and on some occasions I might agree that I'm pretty lucky but that doesn't mean that I'm not aware of what I see as my flaws.

My skin scars pretty easily so even the most superficial scratches leave a mark. I'm never quite happy with my thighs and I don't have the gorgeous smooth skin seen in the magazines. My shins are covered in dry patches that leave me wanting to hide my legs away rather than get them out when the sun appears. Despite a good skincare routine I still get breakouts about once a month (thanks hormones) that leave me wanting to stay in instead of socialising.

With my honeymoon being just around the corner (woo-hoo) I am aware that with temperatures in the mid-twenties there'll be some parts of my body that I'm insecure about on show. After all, I'm not going to be wearing jeans all week and I do hope that I can don my bikini and sit by the pool. The truth is people may or may not notice what I think of as my physical flaws. If they do I have to learn to shrug it off.   This is my body and it's the only one I'm going to get so I've got to forget about what anyone else thinks and begin to love myself.

This isn't a sneaky plea for compliments or sympathy. All I'm trying to say is we all have body hang-ups. Just because someone thinks a certain body shape is amazing doesn't mean that the next person will. Even though you are overly aware about an aspect of your body that you don't like doesn't mean that everyone else has noticed it and feels the same way. Instead of focusing on the negatives I'm looking at the things I do like about myself. And that doesn't even have to be  physical attributes.

Plus the husband maintains that he thinks I'm beautiful. Maybe I should just believe him - at least for the honeymoon.
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4 comments :

  1. I'm a skinny girl and can't gain weight even if I ate mcdonalds every night for a week... Trust me, I did. (I was in high school so don't yell at me haha) I am so insecure about my body but try to remember that we are all different and everyone is pretty in their own unique way. I hate the media nowadays where they hate so much on skinny girls... Like... Wth!? Just because I am skinny makes me fake? Or stuck up? I wish celebrities and songs would make ALL women feel great about themselves and not bash on one body type.

    Ok I'm writing a lot haha sorry and have a great time on your honeymoon :)

    Jessica
    the.pyreflies.org

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    1. The media totally doesn't help with having good body confidence. Whether you're overweight, "ideal" or skinny you can't win. The media always picks up on something that is wrong even with the most good looking people on the planet. I guess attractiveness is all very subjective anyway. No matter how much I try to be more confident and happy with myself I think I'll always be a bit insecure about the way I look.
      Debi x

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  2. I was thinking about this the other day. I rarely have any skin on show because I'm very self conscious about it and there's things that I want to hide because I just don't want to drama. But it doesn't make me happy or comfortable to feel like I am hiding myself away.

    When we went travelling a few years back, I told myself that no one knew me, no one that we meet would probably see us again so what did it matter if I showed some skin. Then it wasn't too bad and I had so much more fun reminding myself each day that none of these people cared any more about me than I did about them. Other aren't generally looking for flaws like I'm not looking for theirs.

    I started thinking this about this when I heard that song Bang Bang (I think), it was on the radio and yes it's promoting love of curvy women but at the expanse of bashing skinny women and that's not fair at all. There's no right or wrong way to look and it's annoying to hear because it's offensive to us that are in the skinny category or like to have a skinny body shape. I never understood that, it's almost seem as wrong for people to like to look skinny rather than curve.

    Body image is complicated...

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    1. I scar quite easily so for years I would try to avoid having my shoulders and upper arms on show because there were lots of scratches and marks on them. I don't know how most of them got there to be honest but I was very self-conscious about it. Not so much any more.

      I think it's great that there is a greater appreciation for curvaceous women but it shouldn't be at the expense of the skinny girls. The whole "real women have curves" thing annoys me so much. Just because I have a pretty small frame and am slim doesn't make me less of a woman. (Likewise I hate the phrase "Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels" - what bullshit!)

      Body image is indeed complicated!

      Debi x

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